We do live in a rape culture, against men :
“In the 2002 comedy 40 Days and 40 Nights, Matt Sullivan (Josh Hartnett) decides to abstain from having sex for Lent. He, of course, meets the “girl of his dreams” during his period of abstinence, so toward the end of his sexual fast, he handcuffs himself to his bed to ensure he won’t break his promise. But his ex-girlfriend has made a bet that he’ll fail. So while he’s handcuffed, she climbs on top of him and forces him to penetrate her.
This is rape. But it’s not called that in the movie; instead, it’s portrayed as Matt “cheating.” He winds up apologizing to his dream girl for the incident— meaning he has to apologize for being raped. This is all supposed to be funny.”